The fuse has been lit... SP3 RantIf you don't want to read this, then don't. I don't have really anything nice to say, because this has gone on too long and I'm very tired of it. People in the exchange have done the one thing that I hate so much I will usually go out of the way to avoid it... they've lit my fuse. This is what I have to say about it. The next post will be about what I'm doing lately. It might take a few days to be posted.
FaerieLady posted at 8:19 PM12 Speak to the Faerie Queen
Awww Kae, that so sucks. Why don't people understand that all you were doing was making it possible for all of them to make the best out of a situation. It wasn't your job to do anything else but make the connection between two people. I think you went above and beyond the call of duty and did a wonderful job. I loved being a pal and having one. It was a great experience and I intend to do it again.
Thank you, Kae, and I'm sorry for the people who can't be nice.
By 9:32 PM, at
Kae, I won't lie and say that this rant isn't the reason I'm thanking you. It was a good reminder. THANK YOU. I wouldn't have taken all this organization on my plate and I certaintly wouldn't have thought people would be all, well, jerky so I wouldn't have even expected all this nastiness. Like you, I know people are nasty and most people are depraved mean SOB's. However, I try to surround myself with friends who I love calling my friends and don't like to associate with the "dark side".
Having said all that to tell you I'd have been in the same place you are except I'm not as generous as you (and it was definitely generosity, especially during Finals Week when I'm usually half insane), really, thanks. I had a great time. My secret pal sender sent some wonderful items that were well thought out and she knew I wanted them. She communicated regularly and has a great sense of humor. I thanked her in my posts every time she sent something. She also occasionally left fun comments on my blog.
My recipient, Elisa, was so sweet. You know, the kind of person who loves getting just about anything and so grateful. The perfect recipient because she'll always love her gifts. Elisa always said something positive about her gifts and never anything negative, ever. Even when she had to go to the scary post office to pick up her package where all sort of weirdos accosted her. She blogged that she totally enjoyed SP3, too. If you want a pick-me-up, read her post http://concateknit.blogspot.com/2004/12/i-feel-like-its-christmas-already.html
So. All this is to tell you, once again, that I had a great time. Thanks for making this possible. I may not be able to indulge in this often (can we say Christmas Credit Card bill?) but it was extremely fun. As for the bad apples... let 'em rot. Good luck on finals and projects :)
What Freecia and Alyx said! And please add my thanks. You were a TERRIFIC SP hostess and I thank you mightily for the two terrific SPs, receiving and giving, that you hooked me up with! You totally rock and I can't imagine how you did so much with munchkin and family and all...please don't led the nasty ones rule the roost. You're right to be pissed AND just let 'em go. You brought a lot joy to us all.
All the best,
By 6:38 AM, at
Just remember all the people who did have a fun time. The others create their own misery. Hugs, Kae for a great job. At least you know you did your part.
So sorry you have had to deal with this crap. Some people just can't get it that this wasn't about what material things you received and how much money was spent. You did a wonderful thing organizing SP3, don't let the bottom feeders ruin that for you!
All of the things you mentioned in your rant were reason I DIDN'T join SP3. I missed SP1 and thought it looked like so much fun that I immediately hopped on the bandwagon with SP2 and was sorely dissappointed. I had a great match for the person who sent me surprises and she was as sweet as can be and now that I know who she is I regularly read her blog. I was matched with someone who couldn't have been more different from me. I sent her goodies and emailed when I could yet kept reading things on her blog like "secret pal where are you?" I felt put upon and sending goodies became a chore and not the pleasure it should have been. I too want to thank you because you came up with the greatest alternative - Fiber RAOK. I joined that ring because it is a great way to offer encouragement or just send a smile where it seems to be needed or indeed just randomly. It is nice to see someone having a bad day and be able to reach out and send something that is truly appreciated even if what you send is not material in any way. So Kae - thanks again for FiberRAOK and don't let the b$#^&ds get you down. You went above and beyond.
By 10:52 AM, at
I can't believe people would give you carp over these petty complaints! *boggles* You put a ton of time and effort into creating a great experience for us, and you deserve lots of thanks and not one bit of complaint. People shouldn't join exchanges like this unless they can get *at least* as into the giving as they do the getting...
Maybe you should forward the info of the bitchers on to the sp4 organizers, too... a sort of "brown list". They could even be all matched up with each other to create their own little circle of whinging and moaning and bitterness, not to contaminate the rest of us who just want to have fun and meet some new people!
I'm really sorry that these people have ruined this experience for you... hopefully some of the appreciation that is out there will get in, too, though.
I love the part about your dogs! It's so true.
You did a great job on SPIII. I only wish I hadn't had my daughter join, her SPIII was a total flake....and you know what, that person got away with it. The only thing I can say, is I hope someone will do the same to her. It's a shame people "say" they will do something, and then don't.
As for the people who didn't like their gifts...they should be lucky they even got a gift.
It would be nice if the "blacklist" was posted before the next SP starts - then we'd know who not to count on. I will no longer participate in anymore SP's, and it's a shame. (NOTHING to do with you Kae, you were and are GREAT).
It's a shame that my daughter doesn't know who her SPIII was, why would you want to read someone like that's blog. Not I.
As for my SPIII, well, I truly understood why she quit, and I hope things are better for her now.
No one knows what you went through Kae, and they never will. They would have to "walk in your shoes" to even begin to try.
Anyhow, I think you did a fantastic job and I was really glad to have met you through SPII. Don't let the mean ol' grouches get to you....life is too short and they aren't worth it.
Enjoy your day!
By 3:06 PM, at
Can I buy you a drink, Honey? Sorry about all that crap. You deserve so much better. I know how much work you put into RAOK, and I'm sure you did as much or more for SP3. I'm glad I sat this round out, if it caused you so much consternation. (Norma)
By 3:19 PM, at
Kae, I can honestly say " I feel your pain". I'm so sorry that people treated you this way. It shouldn't have happened.
Hi Kae -
It well and truly sucks that you've had to deal with so much shit from the SPIII participants. I had a terrific secret pal (Freecia, who actually commented earlier and made me blush crazily) and really enjoyed the program. You put so much effort into making this a successful program, and for the good apples, well, it was great. And like Freecia said, the bad apples? Just let 'em rot.
On another note, can I tell you how *thrilled* I am to be accepted into the FiberRAOK ring? Freaking fantastic!
Kae, I'm sorry (but sadly, not surprised) that your good deeds have had such a result for you. But as Margene said, lots of us had a great time with SP3 -- the pal who spoiled me was a complete delight, and the pal I was assigned to spoil was as well. So I thank you for putting up with all the crap to do something nice!
By 3:53 AM, at